Is “rude
and crude” on its way out?
Civility on Campus
A culture of civility. What does that expression mean to
you? Could it be a culture where:
• people return shopping carts to the appropriate area
instead of leaving them in the middle of a parking lot?
• you regularly let others into lines of traffic?
“We have a choice about how we behave, and
that means we have the choice to opt for civility and
grace.”
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• a fellow passenger asks you what floor you need to
go to and pushes the elevator button for you?
• people don’t engage in complaint-fests?
• students don’t eat disruptively throughout
classes or have numerous side conversations during meetings?
• you get warning from the person in front of you before
they lean their airplane seat back?
• rumors and gossip are not the norm?
An increasing number of campus conversations are centering
on issues of civility. Faculty are concerned by student behavior
in class and by students who “get in their face.” Rude
comments and gossip circles concern students. Staff feel
caught in the crosshairs of “supervisor bashing” or
dealing with increasingly uncivil phone calls. In short,
a growing culture of rudeness is a growing campus concern.
In his book, Choosing Civility (2002), Dr. P.M. Forni, the
cofounder of the Johns Hopkins Civility Project and a professor
of Italian literature at the university, explores not just
manners or politeness but civility. “Being civil,” he
writes, “means being constantly aware of others and
weaving restraint, respect, and consideration into the very
fabric of this awareness.”
Dr. Forni shares The 25 Rules of Considerate Conduct, many
of which may seem like common sense yet offer a nudge for
us all to be more civil beings. His rules include:
1. Pay Attention
2. Acknowledge Others
3. Think the Best
4. Listen
5. Be Inclusive
6. Speak Kindly
7. Don’t Speak Ill
8. Accept and Give Praise
9. Respect Even a Subtle “No”
10. Respect Others’ Opinions
11. Mind Your Body
12. Be Agreeable
13. Keep It Down (and Rediscover Silence)
14. Respect Other People’s Time
15. Respect Other People’s Space
16. Apologize Earnestly
17. Assert Yourself
18. Avoid Personal Questions
19. Care for Your Guests
20. Be a Considerate Guest
21. Think Twice Before Asking for Favors
22. Refrain from Idle Complaints
23. Accept and Give Constructive Criticism
24. Respect the Environment and Be Gentle to Animals
25. Don’t Shift Responsibility and Blame
As more and more campuses embark upon formal or informal “civility
campaigns,” chances are that they’ll end up becoming
much nicer places to be.
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