Getting to Know Your Roommates

Roommate Tips

  1. Communication is the key. Talk to each other, and tell your roommate when you are upset about something your roommate did or did not do.
  2. Be tactful when sharing your feelings with your roommate.
  3. Be a good listener. Try to see your roommate’s point of view.
  4. Control your emotions.
  5. Discuss little problems as they arise to prevent them from the escalation in bigger conflicts.
  6. Be assertive in asking for what you want or need, but don’t be aggressive.
  7. If you need a mediator, contact your RA or CA.

Living with a Roommate

The key to getting to know your roommate is communication. You can’t discover who they are unless you take the time to find out. We suggest you take some time right after move in just to site down and find out more about one another. Two strangers placed together may not always get along. It is not required that you become best friends. It is not even expected that all roommates will be friends. But it is essential that you respect each other and try to get along.

Getting to Know Your Roommate

When you receive your permanent room assignment, you will also receive the name and address of your roommate(s). Over the summer, may wish to exchange mail, phone calls, or e-mail to get to know on another a little before you arrive on campus.

If you are planning to live with someone you have known from your past, your will still need to talk about your new living arrangement. Living with someone can be quite different than being friends. It can be an opportunity to deepen your friendship, but this new situation can also create challenges. Developing new college friendships can be difficult. Jealousy can develop over the balance between new friendships and your friendship. It is important to maintain open communication with one another.

Tips for Adapting to University Life

  • COMMUNICATION with your roommate and others is essential. Getting to know your roommate(s) and other new Lakers is important; where they grew up, what their interests are, etc. are all part of a successful relationship.
  • TRUST in your new relationships. As you become more acquainted with LSSU, you will become more relaxed and confident in yourself and your relationships with others. Trust means taking risks, which is something you will do a lot while at LSSU, and for the rest of your life.
  • CARE about your new environment and relationships here at LSSU. The friendships and bonds that you make in college will last a lifetime. The impressions that faculty, staff, and new friendships make on you are ones that you will look back on fondly long after your days at LSSU are complete.
  • Take PRIDE in your new home, your new friends and your new role on campus. Be involved, enjoy the moment and study.
  • RESPECT your new roommate(s), new friends and your new environment.
  • Take RESPONSIBILITY for your actions. In order to be a successful student at LSSU, you need to go to class, be involved, and study. College is a privilege and an opportunity that not everyone has. You are here to grow and learn and earn a degree.

Roommate Bill of Rights

Your enjoyment of life in a residence hall will depend, to a large extent, on the thoughtful consideration that you have for your roommate(s).

Basic rights of a roommate include:

  1. The right to read and study free from undue interference in your room. Unreasonable noise and other distractions can keep you from enjoying this right.
  2. The right to sleep without undue disturbance from noise, guests of your roommate, etc.
  3. The right to expect that a roommate will respect your personal belongings.
  4. The right to a clean environment in which to live.
  5. The right to free access to your room and facilities without pressure from a roommate.
  6. The right to personal privacy.
  7. The right to host guests, with the expectation that guests are to respect the rights of your roommate and other hall residents.
  8. The right for redress of grievances. Residence hall staff are available for assistance in settling conflicts.
  9. The right to be free from fear of intimidation, physical and/or emotional harm.
  10. The right to expect reasonable cooperation in the use of the room telephone and a commitment to honor agreed payment procedures.

Remember: To be a mature adult is to accept responsibility for the welfare of others. Only you can assure that your roommate enjoys these rights.